Counseling for Women: Overwhelmed/Anxious Adult
It’s 12:30 AM and at this point you’ve attempted to close your eyes to get a restful night’s sleep but wait…your mind is not ready to go to sleep yet! But you continue to try and…nope, your thoughts begin to rudely interrupt…“I can’t believe Maria would say that! I should’ve said something back to her. Insert the perfect play by play of what you should’ve said and should’ve done. Squirrel. Ugh, I can’t believe I missed that deadline though,I must be a failure.Am I failure? Yup.Totally,I’m sure my boss is up right now thinking about what a failure I am to the company. Who even misses that deadline!”
At this point you can’t go to sleep; you look at your phone and now it’s about an hour later! You think to yourself, “Ugh, let me just get on my phone” and before you know it you are mindlessly scrolling through Instagram.As your scrolling, you begin to feel not good enough, wishing you were that person who just traveled to Spain, wondering how that other person is so fit, and your insecurities just keep getting bigger and bigger. Another 30 minutes or so pass by and finally you go to sleep.
About 5 to 6 hours later and your alarm goes off to wake up. Now you’re restless, annoyed, anxious about your day and already feeling overwhelmed with your to do list for the day.
Does this sound like you? Waking up with no motivation or energy to do anything because you’ve spent your day and night overthinking with some to no action to back up your thoughts. Or if you did take action, it just seems like it’s not good enough or up to your standards?
You deserve to wake up with joy, energy, and motivation!Actually you deserve not only to wake up like that but to also maintain that energy throughout the day.
When you feel overwhelmed and overly stressed it causes anxiety. That anxiety then leads to unexplained insecurities (even if you were extremely confident at one point in your life). These insecurities then create negative thoughts to magnify your problem(s) regardless of how big or small they actually are. This is how your brain begins to play tricks on you, saying things to yourself that you wouldn’t even say to your worst enemy. The worst part is that this cycle continues to repeat itself until you say this is enough!
Just take this moment to take a deep breath in for 3 seconds and exhale for 5 seconds. Do this a couple more times and this time mindfully relaxing your shoulders, removing your tongue off the roof of your mouth, and smoothing out your forehead.
Picture yourself waking up with ease and comfort. Having time to gather your thoughts, taking a moment for gratitude, and setting an intention for the day. You brush your teeth, put on your makeup, have time to enjoy your tea or coffee with break fast and leaving to work right on time to kick today’s ass.
YES, YOU! Waking up and taking control of your life that abide by your values, your standards, and living our life with purpose instead of living overwhelmed with your problems.
Bloom Sooner invites you to meet your confident self with ease and comfort. We help you get out of your own way, be clear on your goals, and have fun while you’re doing so. We don’t change your vision; we simply provide you tools that’ll help you change your process from stressful to effortless. These tools will help you decrease anxious thoughts, increase confidence, love yourself more, and feel secure in your decisions.
I bet you’re saying to yourself, “well anyone can say that but what kind of tools are these and how do I know if they are a fit for me?”
Bloom Sooner incorporates numerous therapy modalities since we are aware that not “one size fits all”. Therefore, I’ll discuss our top 2 modalities that may help you and then you can see if they are a fit for you.
Our foundational modality is Solution Focused Therapy where we primarily focus on the things that are already going well in your life and have gone right in the past. This modality emphasizes your strengths and searches for all the positive skills that got you this far. In other words, you already have some skills that are great like reading this page and looking for change!
In addition, since we know you obviously don’t have all the answers because if not you wouldn’t be here. We incorporate Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) for Anxiety and mood regulation. DBT focuses on decreasing anxiety by teaching you mindfulness techniques, how to regulate your emotions, increase your distress tolerance and create more balanced relationships. Each of these sections are very specific to your needs and not all tools will be taught to you depending on where we find the anxiety is stemming from. Therefore, our process is unique to your vision, your goals, and your values. We are not here to tell you what to do but instead invite you to practice something new and see what works for you.
Are you ready to bloom with grace and confidence?
I invite you to really envision the new you with the following question:
“If you were to learn these skills and work through your anxiety with love, who will you become?”